"Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman." Proverbs 21:9
"Better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman." Proverbs 21:19
"It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman." Proverbs 26:24
Wow, know anyone like the women these scriptures are speaking of? Hello? I think I could very well be in the mix of these women pushing my husband in the corner or down right out the door. Yikes! Ladies, we do this without thinking. We have our busy days. We are exhausted. Stress is at it's highest and what do we do? We hit our husbands with everything as soon as they walk through the door. What are they to do? No wonder so many want to just turn around and go back to work.
I have heard men say before, "I would rather spend my time at work than come home and listen to my wife complain." How sad for a man to feel this way. Now, we are not talking about us right now. Let's focus on them for once, shall we?
? How irritating is that sound? We try to rest and that drip drives us crazy. I hate to think I have ever been that irritating drip to my husband.
Now, I have not been that nagging wife, but I have indeed been that wife wanting to make sure my husband knew all that I did throughout the day. If the kitchen was a mess I wanted to make sure he knew how hard I worked on other projects and how much I cared for the kids. But see, he already knew that. Even though he wasn't here, he knew how hard I worked and missed out on being part of it. So, instead of making them feel as though they miss out, why not make them feel included? Give them bath night, give them the time of reading a book to the little ones. Give them room to share instead of us being ready fully loaded to bare all.
Marriage is a gift to be shared between two people who love one another. It is not all about the needs of just one, but both, coming together and finding a way in love to make each day fulfilled in joy. Our home can be filled with love, laughter and joy. We just have to work hard at giving ourselves and loving others just as Christ loves us. No regrets, only blessings. It can happen. We can be the women of God we are called to be. We can still be strong women, but may we allow our husbands to be strong and to be the men they too are called to be.
"And now abide, faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:13